A few years ago, I bought a house. I was really excited and really hoped that the house would be perfect. What I got was full of imperfection. the doors were not aligned properly, painting less than satisfactory etc. I was grossly disappointed.
Then one a day a friend of mine suggested me, that it's not only my house, but no new house is ever perfect.
Initially it appeared that my friend was trying to console me. But thinking again, the wisdom in his words was clear.
My expectation was plain unrealistic.
A house is a product that is a result of the work of many. Even if one person's work was less than perfect, the result was imperfect, and didn't meet my expectation. Assuming that things will happen according to my expectation was not only unrealistic, but almost stupid.
Nothing's perfect, especially if it involves another individual other than myself. It always boiled down to getting the expectations right, rather than blaming others for not meeting my expectations.
The best I can do is try to be perfect, reasonable and honest in what I do. Whether it's doing my work, or being a friend or expressing my feelings or opinions. It will always be my decision.
But expecting others to do the same is simply unrealistic because they will be simply out of my control.
Being true , honest, perfect is completely the other person's prerogative.
All I have to do is just hope, not expect.
-Kaushik
Then one a day a friend of mine suggested me, that it's not only my house, but no new house is ever perfect.
Initially it appeared that my friend was trying to console me. But thinking again, the wisdom in his words was clear.
My expectation was plain unrealistic.
A house is a product that is a result of the work of many. Even if one person's work was less than perfect, the result was imperfect, and didn't meet my expectation. Assuming that things will happen according to my expectation was not only unrealistic, but almost stupid.
Nothing's perfect, especially if it involves another individual other than myself. It always boiled down to getting the expectations right, rather than blaming others for not meeting my expectations.
The best I can do is try to be perfect, reasonable and honest in what I do. Whether it's doing my work, or being a friend or expressing my feelings or opinions. It will always be my decision.
But expecting others to do the same is simply unrealistic because they will be simply out of my control.
Being true , honest, perfect is completely the other person's prerogative.
All I have to do is just hope, not expect.
-Kaushik
Even today, perfection is available if you can afford it. Yesterday, it was available as a virtue. Life is interesting because tomorrow is an unknown quantum.
ReplyDeleteImperfections that we are faced with are part of an overall degeneration of values. More needs to be done than correcting ourselves. We've to get at the single largest factor behind this degeneration; and pulverise it.
Else, generations to come will hand us the dishonour.
Totally agree. Values are going day after day. Sometimes we expect unreasonable stuff from others too ...
ReplyDeleteI have seen the days when perfection was available as a virtue. Today I am a witness to the drooping values too.
ReplyDeleteTo me, it appears that the TV is the single largest factor. If we have the sense and courage to sell the TV, we would read more, we would talk more, we would socialise more.
the urban lifestyle is so fast paced that once someone get back home, they have energy left only to watch TV or do some browsing. there's so much struggle in day to day life, that people sometimes compromise on perfection to get things done. TV is part of the problem but not the sole cause, in my opinion.
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ReplyDeleteYes... TV is certainly only a part of the problem..
ReplyDeleteBut in my view, it is the single largest factor..