You can't find inner peace!!!

The miseries of the past haunt me. The future is uncertain. The present is full of troubles. It haunts me too. I lose sleep, fret over my condition. But nothing really changes. There is no peace in life.

Déjà vu.

It's not just me who feels this often. A lot of folks feel the same way. Whether its the kids studies or health or something else, people live with problems. Peace of mind is definitely lacking, unless one knows where to find it. The answer lies only in one place, in one's own head. The head is a labyrinth of thoughts. Good, bad and the ugly. All sort of thoughts can coexist in the same space. We feel despair, but we convince ourselves that things will be alright, thus giving ourselves hope. We can feel angry, yet within moments we feel happy. There are numerous instances like this when one feeling turns to another in few seconds.

The mind shows amazing adaptability to shift across varying feelings in seconds. Considering that one's mood changes for no apparent reason, I can safely declare that it's possible to find peace in times of turbulence too.

Let's take a situation where one feels disturbed over the past happenings. It could be a feeling of regret, hoping that things could have gone different, comparison with others or even wishing if one had more luck. These are just instances, but the reason for the disturbances could be anything. The cause of the disturbance may be an absolutely valid reason to feel bad or a totally stupid one. It may appear that life hasn't been fair or we are unlucky. The quickest way to achieve peace state of mind is by asking oneself a few questions.

'Can I do something about it at this instant?' , if the answer is yes, then you have a solution to the problem. You can go ahead and fix it. But, in most cases, the answer is a big NO. All that has to be done is to acknowledge the feeling. Is very important that we don't try to reason it out or wonder why the past happened. The acknowledgement must be in its simplest sense. Just be aware that we are remembering stuff from the past and go about doing your work.

The Future - when disturbed about the future, it's just a case of asking the same question. ' can I do something about it? '. The answer may be a NO. It may appear that a tough road lies ahead. It can definitely weigh you down. Now, one needs to ask the second question... 'So what? ' .. The answer to this simple question is that you just have to deal with it whether you like it or not. Again, it's just a case of acknowledging the feeling. It's just a case being aware of what the known future holds and choosing to do something more important at this instant.

There are no guarantees that we forget the past or stop thinking about the future. The easiest way is to accept to oneself that the thoughts exist in the head and decide whether to act on it or leave it. Once you decide to leave the thought aside, the mind automatically starts to work on something else and you feel peaceful.

The longer you can continue to acknowledge that thought exists and keep these thoughts aside, the peace of mind will be longer. The more number of distracting thoughts you can put aside, the more peaceful you'd feel.

But be warned that peace of mind is not absolute and can't be obtained through any means. It's just a state of mind. A simple case of shedding away unwanted thoughts for a given period of time.

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Where the laws of reason dont apply !!!!

At the end of a really long day,  I was surfing the channels on my TV, watched a few scenes from 'A Beautiful Mind'.  The experience was one that can only be felt.  My next hop was to watching 'Rock On!!!' in 5.1, the mood suddenly changed. The great music and the gentle stroryline was a touch of fresh breath at the end of a long tiring day. Right through the movie, my mood was  following the pulse of the movie. Just then it crossed my mind that what I was going through the couple of hours is actually what been going on in my head all these years. 

There are days when life tries to upset you as much as possible, but we are unmoved. We take everything in our stride and remain happy. There are days when even a mosquito bite ticks triggers anger, a joke turns out to a quarrel and nothing seem to cheer you up. Just when all appears lost, an unexpected call or a supporting hand tends to erase the bad mood. We end up doing bungee jumps, parasailing and even crazier stuff. But when it comes to talking to a girl or propose, all the macho courage goes to dust. :) We love chocolates one day, but feel averse to it another. The chocolate haven't changed, nor have we. Its just the state of the mind.  The past memories haunt our actions. Some days we get up with a lot of hope, on others we just get up feeling terrible. Nothing around's actually changed. But its just that we feel different each day and each moment.

Well, you can decode a cipher or even understand the Higgs Boson. But no laws of nature apply to the mind. The mind is unique. Its a labyrinth, a puzzle and an non reasonable mess. Its not possible to reason out every feeling that creeps up in the head. Scholars, scientists and great intellectuals have tried over the years, but none of them have been able to come up with an equation that solves the mystery of the mind. There are only theories on what could be. 

Then comes the next question, how does one deal with the countless thoughts that run amok within the head? I found my  answer  in this insightful conversation from the movie - "A Beautiful Mind"

"Well, you know. "
"Are they gone? "
"No, they're not gone. "
"And maybe they never will be. "
"But I've gotten used to ignoring them...and I think as a result they've kind of given up on me. "
"You think that's what it's like...with all our dreams and our nightmares, Martin? "
"You've got to keep feeding them for them to stay alive?"
"John, they- haunt you, though."
"They're my past, Martin. Everybody's haunted by their past."